Should you include your children in your wedding?

Should you include your children in your wedding?
Many parents when they marry, but have children from previous relationships, will include their children in the wedding ceremony. Some children find this comforting that they are included in such an important decision that changes the dynamics of the family.

How can you include them? Some ideas are:

• When rings are exchanged, your children can receive their own bracelet, necklace or watch, that includes them in the togetherness of the family.
• A special reading or announcement by an older child.
• Depending on the age, a ring bearer, flower girl, usher or junior bridesmaid.

Ultimately, the decision on whether or not to include your children is up to you. Sometimes parents feel they are “too young” but you should try and include your children whenever possible, particularly so you aren’t reinforcing any ideas your child might have that they aren’t being included in your “new life”.

So unless there is a serious reason against it, do include your children in the ceremony, especially if you can find a role for them that both support your child and makes them feel special and an integral part of the new marriage.